I just noticed a maybe lesser emphasized parental instinct: letting children do stuff very inefficiently.

Helping in the kitchen, driving a screw, planting a flower.

Because that's how we learn things and improve.

@buherator Or getting hurt by something they were doing wrong, just a little bit. It's the hardest part of parenting...

@Lee_Holmes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCS8EgDzcHM

@Lee_Holmes @buherator Absolutely.
My parents tried to shelter me, until i started doing all the wrong things on purpose and out of spite, like jumping all over the stairs and dropping from height some multiples of my body height, etc..

Eventually they just started saying "please dont die.", and eventually i learned :p
got better at climbing, falling, dealing with pain, etc

children need to expirience the earth around them, over sheltering helps no one

@buherator Haha, for some definition of "just a little bit" :)

@buherator gotta let them fall over on the train to learn to hold on, let them find a bug in their salad when they dont wash it, and generally just discover consequences so they dont get smacked with ALL consequences at 18 or 21

@buherator @ireneista It's how they learn not to be crippled by perfectionism for the rest of their lives.